The Dominion Post has coverage of a book that somebody wants to ban – “Violent child training book off to censor”
I wonder if the complainant also made a complaint about “Go the F to sleep“. I certainly didn’t hear Sue Bradford make any noise about that book. Is verbal abuse ok?? Or is pedophilia ok? Once again, I didn’t hear a peep from so-called child welfare agencies about the book being sold on Amazon “The Pedophile’s Guide to Love and Pleasure – A Child-Lover’s Code of Conduct.”
Anyway, kiwi parents don’t need to buy a book to find out how to smack appropriately and in a non-abusive way.
All the information they need is on our website www.protectgoodparents.org.nz . The website contains not only stacks of documentary and video evidence of good parents being criminalised and taken to court as a result of the anti-smacking law, but it also has guidelines on non-abusive smacking
- Smacking should be used selectively for clear, deliberate misbehavior, particularly that which arises from a child’s persistent defiance of a parent’s instruction. It should be used only when the child receives at least as much encouragement and praise for good behavior as correction for problem behavior.
- Milder forms of discipline, such as verbal correction, time-out, and logical consequences, should be used initially, followed by smacking when noncompliance persists. Smacking has shown to be an effective method of enforcing time-out with the child who refuses to comply.
- Only a parent (or in exceptional situations, someone else who has an intimate relationship of authority with the child) should administer a smacking.
- Smacking should not be administered on impulse or when a parent is out of control. A smacking should always be motivated by love for the purpose of teaching and correcting, never for revenge.
- Smacking is inappropriate before 15 months of age and is usually not necessary until after 18 months. It should be less necessary after 6 years, and rarely, if ever, used after 10 years of age.
- After 10 months of age, one slap to the hand of a stubborn crawler or toddler may be necessary to stop serious misbehavior when distraction and removal have failed. This is particularly the case when the forbidden object is immovable and dangerous, such as a hot oven door or an electrical outlet.
- Smacking should always be a planned action, not a reaction, by the parent and should follow a deliberate procedure.
- The child should be forewarned of the smacking consequence for designated problem behaviours.
- Smacking should always be administered in private (bedroom or restroom) to avoid public humiliation or embarrassment.
- One or two smacks should be administered to the buttocks. This is followed by embracing the child and calmly reviewing the offense and the desired behaviour in an effort to re-establish a warm relationship.
- Smacking should leave at the most only transient redness of the skin and should never cause physical injury.
- If properly administered smackings are ineffective, other appropriate disciplinary responses should be tried, or the parent should seek professional help. Parents should never increase the intensity of smackings.
How can anyone call that abuse?